I Refused To Dump My Boyfriend For 8 Years Because He Had My Passwords | Tracey Madness


* This is a work of non-fiction based on actual events that I have experienced first hand; used with permission.

My worst boyfriend and I dated for eight long years.

I would have ended my last relationship much sooner if it hadn’t been for a problem. He had all my passwords.

“If he didn’t have all my passwords, I would have finished him already,” I lamented.

“Why not just change them? asked my mother.

“There are so many,” I would reply defeated.

I logged into my Facebook account and saw that he was snooping through my messages. I changed my password, but within a day or two he would have figured it out. He also had all my email passwords, so I was constantly worried that he was reading my private correspondence.

My boyfriend took over all my bank accounts, used my PayPal, sent checks to himself from my checking account, and transferred from my accounts to his without asking.

He got my Amazon seller account banned for arguing with a customer after he used my account to sell counterfeit products. Then he also spoofed my eBay account.

Once I had the nerve to change my email password without telling him, and he jumped off the roof. He called me shouting and screaming. It asked me for my password. “Or else it’s over.

I should have called his bluff. Instead, I gave him my new password.

I was so worried about what he would do if I left him that I stayed with him too long. If it hadn’t been for the fact that he had all my passwords, I would have ended things much sooner. But because he had such a hold on me, I stayed in an unhealthy, toxic relationship for too long.

It wasn’t just digital espionage that made me feel trapped; he also knew all my secrets. He knew things about me that I hadn’t even told my best friends. And I knew that if I ever tried to leave him, he would use those secrets against me.

So I stayed even though I was unhappy because I didn’t want to give him the satisfaction of winning.

Finally, I left him. But it took me a while to find the courage. And even then, I had to change all my passwords before I could finally break free.

But one day I realized that I was the only one who could save myself. So I changed all my passwords, gathered my courage and finally left him. I never looked back.

And it was amazing.

My life is better than it’s ever been because he’s not there, and the only one who has access to my passwords is me.

If you’re in a relationship with someone who knows all your passwords, beware. They can use this information to monitor you. If you ever find yourself in my situation, remember that you have the power to change your passwords and take back control of your life. Don’t be afraid to use it.

Change your passwords and get out of there. You deserve better.


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